Semantics of Birth
Brittany Sharpe McCollum, CCE(BWI), CD(DONA)
Language has incredible potential to build community,
strengthen concepts and definitions, and create empowerment. With these great
strengths comes the conflicting potential
to to segregate, disempower, and induce fear. Just recently in a class I
facilitated, an expectant dad brought up the hypocrisy of the term “natural
birth.” As a class, we chuckled and briefly discussed what reality would be like
if birth was the norm and interventions were not. People would be coming to
class, heading to hospital labor rooms, preparing for birthing, actually
interested in “birth” and looking to avoid “intervention birth.”
The way we discuss contractions as pain and tension, versus
discussing waves as sensation and release are building a framework for how one
approaches these challenges of labor. When asked what labor feels like,
legendary midwife Ina May Gaskin states “Contractions are intense sensations
that require all of your focus.” Pain brings on feelings of tension, the term
contraction builds a tightness in the pit of the belly. When we open the mind
to new terminology, we approach a new space of understanding, perspective, and,
ultimately, ability.
When I practice visualization techniques with my clients,
one of my main goals is to help them
recognize the control they have over their bodily response - the great impact
the mind has to positively affect bodily function. We dive into green pastures,
softly cresting and ebbing waves, and the rustle of leaves surrounding us but
not before, first, thinking intently upon our favorite treat. Imagine warm,
slightly fudgy, chocolate cake, layered with whipped dark chocolate frosting
that careens down the side and forms soft peaks overtop. The smell of cacao
that wafts up when the fork sets slowly through the pillow of cake and draws it
upwards to the mouth. The sensation of chocolate and fudge blanketing
tastebuds. The final tongue swipe that pulls the last bit of icing from the
lips. You may already have watering of
the mouth which is
a bodily response showing how powerful language can be.
As a society, as a culture, if we are able to reorganize the
language norms surrounding labor, we gain the ability to approach birth
fearlessly, with empowerment, relaxation, and excitement. Yes, birth is challenging, and yes, birth can be uncomfortable. Birth is not all roses, but discomfort is manageable.
Tightness is temporary. And the ebb and flow is exhilarating.
Let’s say for a moment that larger society phrased things
differently - midwives catch babies, women give birth, couples are clients. The
empowerment, sensation, and potential that comes from the change in perspective
that language can offer is astounding. When we discuss our births with our
children and our friends and in our birthing circles, let’s talk about waves,
and sensations, and challenges. Let’s leave behind contractions, pain, and
tension. In doing so, we can further encourage women to embrace their births
and their bodies, rise up to take back the fluidity of labor, and settling in to
enjoy birth as an extraordinary rite of passage.